| | How to Help Your Child Through Your Divorce
Divorce is a very hard time for everyone to deal with. It can be very hard on a person emotionally and physically as well. This is especially true for children. They have to have the proper help during this difficult time. They need to know and understand that it is not their fault and that both parents still love them very much.
Parents are going to have to work hard at putting aside their resentment and hard feelings toward each other. They need to make an arrangement that will be suitable to them and to the children. This is going to be much more simple and less painful than having to go into court and have them decide this for you.
You have to be able to be civil with your spouse and help the kids. This is the only way to help them through this difficult experience. Even if the other parent falls through, and doesn't keep the arrangement you've both agreed on, it is your job to do the best you can.
It is not the best idea to keep the divorce a secret from the children. You need to tell them when you make your decision and let them know what will happen. If feasible, give them some notice before the parent moves out so that the child has time to deal with it and ask questions. Reassure the child that both parents are still going to be there for them and that nothing has changed in that sense.
Do not place blame on anyone when you are talking to your kids. Do not put down the other parent in any way. It is important that the children know that they still have two dependable and trustworthy parents to take care of them. Tell them that it was a mutual decision and that you both did your best to avoid this ending, but sometimes it just happens, and it is not their fault in anyway.
Make your child aware that they are not going to be able to get the both of you back together. Tell them that there is nothing that they can do to make the situation go away. Also make it clear to them where they are going to live and that they can see the other parent any time they want to. You can tell them that there may be some changes in that later on, but it is not going to affect their relationship. Give them the opportunity to ask you any questions that they may have for you both.
Providing the child with the best information and not too much information is necessary. You do not wish them to feel anxious or worry about anything that is not their concern. They have to feel comfortable with the news that you told them and give them some time to adjust to the idea.
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